~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ My daughter, Mary, almost twenty - was killed in a car accident Nov. 6, 1995. She was my youngest of five children and she was so very special from the day she was born.
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~From a realistic view let's look at what has happened. Let's decide which is the best approach for dealing with this LOSS:
1. Nothing can change what has happened. So we might as well make up our mind to accept it and go on with life, even though it's rough. Really, what choice do we have?
2. Crying endlessly solves nothing. It wears us out and damages us moment by moment. [Sometimes all a person can do is cry and they can't accomplish anything]... So why continue crying and licking our wounds like a whipped pup? It isn't helping a bit!
3. Our health will deteriorate when we oppose God's Will. So we might as well listening to Scripture which tells us not to resent or rebell against God's WILL. (His decisions.) If we do we will only be hurting ourselves. Look at Psalm 31:10 "For my life is spent with grief, And my years with sighing: My strength fails because of my iniquities, And my bones waste away."
4. We also loose a valuable opportunity to grow spiritually if we spend oodles of time in grief... So instead of spending endless time in grief - just reach out and ask God a few questions:
Lord, what do You want me to learn?
Lord, how can I gain spiritually from this human tragedy?
Lord, what do You want of me?
And Lord, how can I use this LOSS for YOUR glory
When we loose someone dear we NEED to reach for HELP. God's HELP is the BEST!~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~We humans stumble through life trying to do everything ourselves.. Like a little child trying to walk, not wanting to hold mamma's hand.... Mamma wants to be there to hold and protect. When her child has a problem she also wants the child to come to her for help.
God is sort of like our mom, in that He wants us to take hold of His hand and seek His help as we go down the road of life. He built us with a NEED. [A void.] We try to fill that space with friends, fun, and things... but when push comes to shove... well, we need more than all of that! Yes, God made us with this special need so we would seek HIM and take His hand and TRUST Him.
Suggestions: REACH for the Master's Hand...Tell Him your hurts, your anger, your doubts, your longings, and your fears. Ask God questions if you feel the need. [ Because no one but God can answer those questions...] But remember that sometimes we don't need to know all the answers... Sometimes all God wants us to do is just to TRUST His decision!
One thing is for sure: When you experience a trauma God wants you to come to Him... come closer than ever before. It is the perfect time to give your mind, heart, and your whole life to the Lord.
Jesus can heal a broken heart but we have to let Him have all the pieces. So give Him your all... He wants a total commitment. Jesus wants to be your Savior, but He also desires to be the MASTER and the LORD of your life! We humans really need HIM in control even though we don't realize this until we're at our wit's end. Time of LOSS puts us at this place!
Therefore: After we loose a loved one we have a great opportunity for spiritual growth.
Ask God:"Lord what do you want to accomplish in me, through this human tragedy?" Beg God to draw you closer to Him than you've ever been before and to help you to find peace & joy. And ask Him to help YOU to TRUST His decision...
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God loves each one of us more than we could ever comprehend. It doesn't matter if we are poor, rich, handsome or homely. It doesn't matter whether we're sitting in church, on a beach or sitting in a jail cell. What we did wrong or what we did right doesn't matter. He loves every one of His children just the same. He doesn't have favorites!
God has a PLAN for each one of us.... If we're willing; God will mend and change our heart and literally turn our life around.
Then we will begin to fit into His PLAN for our life!
Then we can become one of His useful servnts.After we've gone through the experienced and devastation of LOSS we should be willing to help others. Helping others also helps bring more healing of our own emotions. Thus while helping others we GROW Spiritually and recover faster and more completely.
God will show us how to use our experiences as a means to reach out to others in trouble and distress. I can attest to this! I've been there, done that! [My poetry reveals much of my life.]
God had a purpose for my Mary's death. What the whole purpose was I'm not sure. But, I do know that He is using my experience to reach out to other hurting folks, for their sake and for His GLORY! I praise God for THAT! God is so good! I am rejoicing because the hardships brought me closer to my Lord and Savior. I thank God that He didn't give up on me. He was there by my side, patiently waited for me to give Him control of my whole life. When I did, He turned my life around. And now I am useful to Him in His WORK. Therefore I'm most richly blessed as I shout His praises world wide!
God is our strength, our rock, our fortress, our deliverer, our refuge, and our Comforter!
"May the Lord fill Your Heart with His LOVE and bring peace and joy into your soul. Amen."
Mary Katherine Kohl
2-25-2000
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